As i was sitting at the beach in Goa and looking at my family having fun, Anuvas naughtiness making me giggle, Anshs observations and questions making me wonder, I saw this young lady slowly saunter by and sat on a rock close by. She sat there almost still .
Just as we are tuned, i thought probably her partner will soon join her..then a few minuter later i wondered if she has had an argument with him and is sitting there sad.
Why did i not once think that she was alone and not lonely, and that she was enjoying the sunset. Alone is certainly not lonely! i know that cos i enjoy being alone. Just a walk by myself or even sitting and having my dinner alone at times is good. And i have felt lonely in a group of people , wanting to run out of a place.
When we got back home from the trip, i sat looking at this picture and it was then i looked at it again closely and the girl there seemed peaceful and enjoying the sunset.
It was i who sat there overthinking, looking at her when i could have just enjoyed the sunset! I have realised the unrest is within us and one fleeting thought that can raise a wave of unwanted emotion.
Which brings me to Change. There is so much i have read and heard about this one single ,powerful word. For people who know me, know that i have lost weight . And any one who is on a weightloss trip knows how difficult it can be and also how easy it can get once you've made up your mind.
Making up ones mind is probably the biggest challenge one faces. For years, ive heard things from people about how i need to loose weight in different ways, some really gently and some really harsh. While i can write one whole blog about just the comments, i don't want to focus on those here. While It was being hammered, nothing worked..i took it all with a smile, then why did i one day not smile at those comments? It was because I realised i needed to make that one change in my life. Its you, only you , your thoughts, your desire , your motivation and your want to get what you have made up your mind to achieve.
Your mind, your will is the strongest force to help you achieve what you want.
The process of change is very humbling and its beautiful. So when my mind was made, i was more open to being appreciative of people who have achieved it. My friend Tina and Hazel have been my biggest motivators. Not only in being healthy , but their approach to life.
I have started listening to people I Listen, not hear. I appreciate small things . I ask for help when i need it.
I have set new goals for myself- i want to have the ability to accept people in my life who are different from me. When you are a stay at home mom, in a nuclear family you are almost like the boss. The moment i have someone i dont get along with i just have a delete button in my mind (too) and the person disappears. So my next big Change is to accept the person with differences with open arms and learn a lot more. Its easier to ignore than to accept and that is a challenge. This is the next big improvement i am looking to make in myself.
Hopefully my next blog in this series will be about how i made the change and how i have improved as a person. Change is inevitable and it is good.
Just as we are tuned, i thought probably her partner will soon join her..then a few minuter later i wondered if she has had an argument with him and is sitting there sad.
Why did i not once think that she was alone and not lonely, and that she was enjoying the sunset. Alone is certainly not lonely! i know that cos i enjoy being alone. Just a walk by myself or even sitting and having my dinner alone at times is good. And i have felt lonely in a group of people , wanting to run out of a place.
When we got back home from the trip, i sat looking at this picture and it was then i looked at it again closely and the girl there seemed peaceful and enjoying the sunset.
It was i who sat there overthinking, looking at her when i could have just enjoyed the sunset! I have realised the unrest is within us and one fleeting thought that can raise a wave of unwanted emotion.
Which brings me to Change. There is so much i have read and heard about this one single ,powerful word. For people who know me, know that i have lost weight . And any one who is on a weightloss trip knows how difficult it can be and also how easy it can get once you've made up your mind.
Making up ones mind is probably the biggest challenge one faces. For years, ive heard things from people about how i need to loose weight in different ways, some really gently and some really harsh. While i can write one whole blog about just the comments, i don't want to focus on those here. While It was being hammered, nothing worked..i took it all with a smile, then why did i one day not smile at those comments? It was because I realised i needed to make that one change in my life. Its you, only you , your thoughts, your desire , your motivation and your want to get what you have made up your mind to achieve.
Your mind, your will is the strongest force to help you achieve what you want.
The process of change is very humbling and its beautiful. So when my mind was made, i was more open to being appreciative of people who have achieved it. My friend Tina and Hazel have been my biggest motivators. Not only in being healthy , but their approach to life.
I have started listening to people I Listen, not hear. I appreciate small things . I ask for help when i need it.
I have set new goals for myself- i want to have the ability to accept people in my life who are different from me. When you are a stay at home mom, in a nuclear family you are almost like the boss. The moment i have someone i dont get along with i just have a delete button in my mind (too) and the person disappears. So my next big Change is to accept the person with differences with open arms and learn a lot more. Its easier to ignore than to accept and that is a challenge. This is the next big improvement i am looking to make in myself.
Hopefully my next blog in this series will be about how i made the change and how i have improved as a person. Change is inevitable and it is good.
